Gottman Method couples therapy for the relationship you both want.

I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate (LMFTA) with a Masters degree in Marriage and  Family Therapy. I graduated from Antioch University, where I also earned a certificate in Sex Therapy. To  me, therapy is an incredible tool for healing, exploration, and liberation. I am specially trained in lending  a neutral ear as you work through new truths and find growth in old wounds. As a relationship therapy  specialist, I know that enriching connections to Self, Partners, Family, and Community are key to  achieving the high quality of life that you deserve. My role is to help you gain confidence, truth, and a  chance to re-write your life’s narrative. I work with individuals, people in relationships (couples, spouses,  polycules, etc.), and families of all kinds. I draw from a strengths-based humanistic approach that is  collaborative, flexible, and client-centered.  

My Approach:  

My approach to therapy is warm, compassionate, and curious. I use empathetic listening skills with an  emphasis on exploring personal and relational meaning. With these tools, I can help you seek a fuller  understanding of yourself and your connections to the world.  

I am particularly excited to work with individuals and couples grappling with sex and intimacy issues,  gender dysphoria, anxiety, depression, shame, self-esteem, and trauma. I fully support and affirm BIPOC,  LGBTQIA+, polyamorous, kink, BDSM, and other marginalized communities.  

Focus Areas:  

Depression, anxiety, trauma, grief and loss, body image issues, relationship issues, self-esteem, sex  therapy issues, LGBTQIA+ issues, spirituality  

Treatment Approaches:  

Treatment is shaped by the unique needs of each client. I clinically gravitate to the following modalities  and principles; Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Attachment-Based Therapy, Structural Family Therapy,  Internal Family Systems, The Wheel of Consent, Polyvagal Theory, Solution-Focused Therapy, Narrative  Therapy, Attachment-Based Therapy 

Maybe your relationship has become a source of stress and anxiety. You’re walking on eggshells, afraid of another conflict. Simple conversations escalate quickly, and you want to communicate better, but you don’t know how. Or perhaps you’ve lost touch with the person you used to be, the one with energy, interests, and passions. Anxiety and trauma are running your life, and you’re unsure how to regain control. You don’t have to go through this alone. Whether you’re struggling with relationships, family conflicts, parenting challenges, trauma, or personal difficulties, you deserve support.

I practice Solution-Focused therapy and incorporate elements of the Gottman Method for relationship work. Together, we can identify and harness these resources to create a more fulfilling, meaningful life aligned with who you are when you are at your best.

For PTSD, trauma-related distress, and phobias, I offer Rewind Trauma Therapy, a highly effective, non-intrusive technique that helps reprocess traumatic memories through guided imagery, without requiring you to relive or disclose painful experiences. This method can provide relief in just a few sessions.

I work with individuals, couples, and families. Culture, identity, and spirituality can be important aspects of a person’s life, and I will always strive to welcome a person’s full self. My practice is sensitive to religious, spiritual, and cultural diversity, and I am LGBTQ+ friendly. 

As your therapist, I aim to provide a warm, welcoming space where you feel safe to share openly without fear of judgment. My goal is for you to leave each session feeling heard, supported, and respected.

Reaching out for help can feel daunting, but taking that first step is a courageous act of self-care. I look forward to meeting you!

I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Washington, with a Master of Science degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Seattle Pacific University.

Experience

I have provided a wide range of psychotherapy services to children, families, individuals, and couples over the past six years across diverse environments including, private practice, community mental health, medical facilities, public and private schools, early childhood education, and early intervention. I have worked with clients from all walks of life, ranging in experiences, cultural background and heritage, and personal identities. My therapeutic focus includes individual, dyadic and family sessions with infants to nine years old populations and their parents in supporting them, as they work through through life challenges together. I also provide dyadic sessions for parents, couples and families presenting relationship, communication, and related concerns. Clients I have worked with have experienced struggles with depression, perinatal/postpartum difficulties, anxiety, grief, trauma, adverse stress, relationship conflicts, life transition complications, and emotional, behavioral and developmental related concerns.

My Approach

My approach to the therapy is strength based, warm, inclusive, and collaborative. In my work with clients, I partner with them in determining goals to work on together, while using the strengths clients already have within themselves and in their existing relationships with others, as a catalyst for growth, healing, resilience, and transformation in a safe and empowering therapeutic environment. I am intentional in my approach to provide adult clients an opportunity through talk therapy to slow down from their busy schedules, to observe, reflect and discover newfound understandings and solutions for their presenting difficulties or concerns. For children and their parents, I use a combination of talk and play centered therapy as a means to see, hear and understand the child’s emotional experiences and potential needs underlying his or her behaviors. I am also intentional in my practice in offering additional space to parents for reflection and introspection to support their wellbeing as individuals, and within their roles as parents.  The theoretical orientations I use include an integrated approach using Child Parent Psychotherapy, Solution Focused, Psychodynamic, Experiential, Gottman Method, and Family Systems models of therapy. My therapeutic approach is also informed by Perinatal/Maternal Mental Health, Women’s Mental Health and Play Therapy modalities. The therapy I provide to clients is always driven and centered around their specific life circumstances, values, and culture with respect to their personal identities as we begin  our collaborative therapeutic work together. For each client that I partner with, the goal is  always to empower them and their respected relationships with improved quality of life,  and relationships with others to strive for a healthy and thriving future. 

Welcome 
Hi, I’m Stacy Lanier (she/they), a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Washington and Texas. I specialize in helping individuals, teens, couples, and families work through life’s toughest moments, whether they are dealing with anxiety, trauma, identity exploration, or strained communication.

If you’re reading this, you’ve already taken a powerful step toward healing. I want to honor that courage. Therapy can be a place of transformation, but it doesn’t have to feel cold or clinical. I bring warmth, authenticity, and a deep respect for your story into every session. Whether you’re neurodivergent, working through family transitions, or trying to rewrite the script of how you show up in relationships, I’m here for it, and I’m here for you.

Background 
Before I became a therapist, I spent years walking alongside people through grief, change, and growth as a caregiver, parent, advocate, and community leader. Those lived experiences, along with a Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy from Capella University and advanced training in EMDR and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, profoundly inform my work.

I have guided families through trauma recovery, identity shifts, and grief healing. I have created a supportive space for teens grappling with abandonment, for partners feeling trapped in old conflict patterns, and for individuals striving to reclaim their worth after years of self-doubt. My own journey has been shaped by movement across states, systems, and roles, and I understand what it is like to reimagine life in the face of change.

Approach

My therapy style is relational, nonjudgmental, and collaborative. I don’t believe in one-size-fits-all approaches. Therapy with me is tailored specifically for you. I integrate systemic thinking, Narrative Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and various other modalities to help you explore the narratives and patterns that shape your life.

We might map your relationship cycles, externalize a negative self-belief, explore the roles different “parts” play inside you, or practice new communication strategies. You’ll find our sessions filled with metaphor, curiosity, a touch of humor, and an ongoing invitation to be your true self.

My areas of focus include:

• LGBTQ+ mental health and identity development.
• Parenting and supporting neurodivergent adolescents.
• Trauma and complicated grief.
• Attachment wounds and relational healing.
• Boundaries, self-esteem, and emotional regulation.
• Family systems and attachment repair.
• Relationship difficulties and communication challenges.

Closing 
I believe therapy is a sacred space where insight, courage, and connection come together. If you’re ready to begin your healing journey, or even just curious about what it might involve, I’d love to meet you right where you are.

Healing isn’t about perfection, it’s about connection.
Whether you’re looking to understand yourself more deeply, mend a strained relationship, or start a new chapter in life, I would be honored to walk alongside you.

I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate (LMFTA) in Washington State. I work with adolescents, adults, couples, and families working through life’s challenges – whether that’s relationship stress, anxiety, depression, major transitions, or the quiet feeling that something in life just isn’t working the way it used to. My goal is to offer a warm, collaborative space where you can feel heard, supported, and understood as you explore what’s been weighing on you and begin creating meaningful change.

My Background

My path to becoming a therapist began with a deep curiosity about people and the ways we connect, heal, and grow. I earned my Master’s degree in Psychology with an emphasis in Clinical and Marriage and Family Therapy from Pepperdine University in Malibu, California. My professional experience has included supporting clients across the lifespan – helping teens manage identity and school-related stress, adults move through anxiety and life transitions, and couples improve communication and connection.

My Approach

Therapy with me is collaborative, conversational, and grounded in compassion. My foundation is person-centered therapy, which means I believe you are the expert of your own life. My role is to help you access your inner wisdom, build clarity, and find tools that support you in living with greater authenticity and ease.

I integrate evidence-informed modalities such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS) concepts, mindfulness, and Polyvagal Theory. Together, we’ll explore patterns, strengthen emotional awareness, and develop practical ways to support resilience and connection.

What to Expect

I believe true healing happens when we feel deeply understood. In our work together, I aim to help you feel more grounded and centered, and to guide you toward a greater sense of clarity, confidence, and self-compassion. Whether you’re seeking therapy for yourself, your relationship, or your family, you don’t have to go through it alone. It takes courage to begin, and I’m honored to walk alongside you on your journey toward wellbeing.